S*x is very exhilarating and mind-blowing. But it can get disastrous if the right procedures are ignored in the process. Get the details on seven common mistakes guys make with women, and learn how to avoid them. Mistake 1: Sex Starts in the Bedroom Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says s*x therapist Ian Kerner, PhD. Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her. Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during sx, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.” Mistake 2: Assume You Know What She Wants “Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it. Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “How does this ...